We spend at least 8 hours per day, meaning 1/3 our life, working. Do a terrible job, your life is worse than hell. Have a dream job, you move forward faster than anyone else. Sadly, I have met so many people constantly complaining about their terrible job, terrible wage, terrible boss and terrible colleagues. In this writing, I won’t discuss reasons behind one’s choice of career. In stead, I have found a pretty basic formular with 3 easy steps to have our dream jobs, based on my own experience.
Step 1: Stop dreaming
This is not sarcasm. Seriously, stop dreaming about an ideal boss who encourages instead of complaining. Graduating from university 5 years ago, I was brainwashed by the message “A leader will raise you up while a boss drags you down”. I kept building my own ideal image of a “true leader” who, at the same time, is the best in their expertise and cares the most about what their staff think. It’s not true. Chasing that unrealistic leadership will make you a fool denying chances to grow up. Each person you met in life will teach you something no matter if you want to learn, and each teacher will have their own way. Some are generous and specifically tell you what to do, the others just give you 1 shot to prove yourself.
Opportunities don’t wait for anyone; you have to prepare yourself to be ready for anything. The reason why this is the very first step to your dream job is that, as long as you own a value to exchange with the employer, you can make a bargain to get what you want. And if you already proved yourself in one way or another but it doesn’t work, go to step 2.
Step 2: Be true to yourself
Or I must ask “Do you really understand yourself?” How can you be true to yourself if you don’t know who you really are and what you really need?
You should, at least, know what you need at certain points of time and stick to it. If you want money, don’t complain about toxic workplace and rude boss. If you want a nice boss, don’t complain low wage. If you want a safe place, don’t complain on steady job or slow promotion. There is always a matrix of expected and unexpected things for you to choose. Right from the first few months of probation, you know exactly if the job or workplace meets your needs. Be responsible for your decision and you’ll feel less annoying of unexpected things.
At the age of 22, my English was extremely bad and so I applied to an Internship program at an International Company. No wage, sometimes I disappointed colleagues by my bad English. But that’s fine, because at least I can see and hear how people speak English in daily basis. This job made me better.
At the age of 23, I wanted to experience hospitality industry so applied to a waitress position at a small restaurant. Low salary and mean co-workers but I found happiness in talking to and understanding customers, who actually taught me a lot more than I can expect.
At the age of 25, I wanted money and a steady job so applied to a real estate office. Heavy workload didn’t drown me as I finally had my goal salary. My job is admin so it’s kinda stable without any promotion (I already expected this), plus, I had time to write and to pursue my passion with coffee — which makes me happier everyday. It’s my dream job.
Step 3: Be not true to yourself for once
Now that you totally understand your needs, your ability and your limit, I’m glad that you found a job that meeting your standard. If you haven’t, you’ll do very soon. I can promise you.
So, what to do with the “not being yourself for once”? You have decades of life and don’t stop growing up even when you’re an adult. So does your ability. Your 1 year ago self feared of what you don’t fear now, and were unable to do what you can do now.
Have you ever been doubted of being unable doing something, although you said that just because you don’t like? I have. Somehow, my big ego didn’t let those rumors reflects my ability and that’s the first time I did my least favorite thing: Accounting. I hate numbers and formulas. People assume I cannot calculate as logically as an accountant. Just when I paid all my attention in understanding which numbers come from where and how they relate to each other, I realized it wasn’t difficult as I thought and my ability were so much flexible.
At the end of the day, no one can force you to do anything you don’t want to. Remember that. So next time, if you are not happy with your job, ask yourself why you chose it from the first place? Do you still need anything from it? And who exactly do you want to become now?